sometimes i wonder how relationships work? I have a very cynical attitude towards the inter-personal relationship mumbo-jumbo which most of the relationship experts claim they have understood crystal clear. Sometimes I feel even the strongest will power can not make a relationship click. Ofocurse the fact that you have to try too hard, says a lot of things. On the other hand, nothing is perfect; there are miniature cracks even in the most magnificiently constructed artifacts. Just because they cannot be seen, doesnot mean they donot exist.
I have a fridge door magnet that says "dont try to understand me, just love me". I find that so contradictory. I donot believe in blind love. Yeah i know it does exist, and there is nothing to be judgemental about it. But I would prefer to understand the person whom i love if not completely, atleast a little bit, to ensure that my love is more conscious and driven by my will to love him/her, than just another emotion that i feel for them. sometimes attitudes are not compatible, sometimes outlooks/perspectives aren't and sometimes there is no rhyme or reason. But ultimately, when it becomes impossible to understand another, or the rationality behind their actions or behaviour, loving them becomes difficult. Or ironically, it is still possible to continue loving them, but liking them or sharing yourself with them is impossible. I know a lot of people who love each other, but when it comes to knowing each other, they are as peplexed as the famous hen/egg paradox! There is an ocean of difference between loving and or liking a person, very few are aware of this. Though ideally speaking, when u love each other, you share everything amongst one another, the gaps get bridged. But this seldom happens. Loving and closeness with a person are often mixed. When i love a person and when I am close with one, I mean different things. But ofcourse then the question that automaticaly stems from this is what the origin of love is, or rather what love is. The base line is i have no clue! But I know what it means at a comparitive scale when you love a person and when you like them or may be I don't.
These are things which ui have observed, but obviously everyone has a different story to tell dont they!